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Coming Out
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"Coming out" to someone is an important step for people and is different for every person, however it is also something that you should only do when you feel comfortable and you have support. Be prepared for a range of reactions and be patient as people work through their own feelings.
 
English

1. No two coming out experiences are ever the same.
2. Prepare yourself: read all the information you can on being gay so you know the facts from the myths.
3. A person is more intelligent than a group of people, come out to people one at a time and somewhere private
4. Set the scene: make sure you have the time and space to share this information with the person you are coming out to.
5. Never come out in an argument or to hurt someone.
6. People may say things initially that they don’t realize are painful to hear. Remember that they are simply unaware and in a state of surprise.
7. They may already know.
8. Don’t have your lover with you.
9. Be ready for them to need time and space to think before any discussion takes place.
10. Be ready for them to drill you with questions that may or may not offend you.
11. Sometimes it is easier to read about an issue than to admit you are uneducated. Have a book, pamphlet, phone number or other resource that can be used when you’re not around. (MGRM can provide both information booklets and the National Gay Helpline service).
12. There will be people who will never be supportive no matter what is said.
13. Always have an escape plan. You may not need it but if you do, you won’t be surprised. Have a place to crash for the night, and money in case a worse case scenario happens.
14. Have resources for you to call, you need support too.
15. Just because you came out to someone once doesn’t mean you will not need to do it again.
16. Breathe! It will be ok!
 
For more information or help, call MGRM National Gay Helpline on 21 430 006.
You can also email support@maltagayrights.org.

Malti

1. L-esperjenzi ta’ coming out ta’ kulhadd huma b’xi mod differenti.
2. Kun preparat. Fittex informazzjoni relevanti halli tkun taf tgharaf il-verita`mill-hafna qlajjiet.
3. Sikwit persuna tifhem izjed meta affrontata wahedha milli meta tkun fi grupp – jekk iddecidejt li tiftah qalbek man-nies ta’ madwarek, sib lil dawn in-nies wahedhom u f’post privat.
4. Kun cert li ghandek l-gharfien necessarju u l-hin mehtieg biex taqsam hsibijietek mal-persuna.
5. Qatt tiftah qalbek ma' persuna waqt argument jew biex twegga’ lil dan li jkun.
6. Tinsiex li persuna sikwit tista’ tghid affarijiet li ma tkunx qed tirrealizza li jistghu iwegghu lil haddiehor. Zomm f’mohhok li ma' min qed tiftah qalbek jista’ jkun sorpriz.
7. Tinsiex ukoll li jista’ jkun li diga jkunu jafu x’se tghidilhom.
8. Jekk ghandek sieheb jew siehba, ahjar ma jkunx/tkunx prezenti dak il-hin.
9. Kun lest li taghti l-hin u l-ispazju necessarju lil dak li jkun biex jahseb dwar dak li ntqal.
10. Jista’ jkun li jistaqsuk mistoqsijiet li, frott il-misinformazzjoni taghhom, tista’ thossok offiz bihom.
11. Jista’ jkun li l-persuni li tohrog maghhom ikunu jridu iktar informazzjoni dwar il-coming out. Tajjeb li jkollok xi ktejjeb ta’ informazzjoni jew xi numru tal-telephone li jistghu jintuzaw minnhom meta inti ma tkunx hemmhekk. (Il-MGRM tista’ tipprovdi kemm kotba ta’ informazzjoni kif ukoll is-servizz tan-National Gay Helpline).
12. Zomm f’mohhok li xi nies jistghu ma jurukx is-support taghhom irrelevanti minn dak li jintqal.
13. Ippjana ghal li jista’ jinqala f’kaz li d-diskussjoni tmur hazin. Qis fejn tista’ tmur f’kaz li l-argument jihrax u li jkollok xi ftit flus f’idejk ghal li jista’ jinqala'.
14. Zomm nota tan-National Gay Helpline jew ta’ persuni ohra li tahseb li jistghu jghinuk f’kaz ta’ bzonn.
15. Il-fatt li hrigt ma’ xi hadd ma jfissirx li mhux se jkollok terga’ tohrog ma’ persuni ohrajn. Il-coming out huwa process kontinwu.
16. Ikkalma. Fl-ahhar mill-ahhar kollox se jmur sew.
 
Ghal iktar informazzjoni jew ghajnuna, ikkuntattja lill-MGRM fuq in-National Gay Helpline fuq 21 430 006.
Tista' wkoll tibghat email fuq support@maltagayrights.org.
 

National Gay Helpline

If at any time you require support or you feel like you would like to express your thoughts freely to a person who will understand you, send us an email on support@maltagayrights.org

You may also call the National Gay Helpline, run by MGRM... Tel: +356 21430006 / +356 99255559

The Drachma Parents Group is also an active group within Drachma.  Their mission is that of providing support to parents and friends of LGBT people, read more

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If at any time you require support or you feel like you would like to express your thoughts freely to a person who will understand you, send us an email on support@maltagayrights.org

You may also call the National Gay Helpline, run by MGRM... Tel: +356 21430006 / +356 99255559

Malta Gay Rights Movement (MGRM)

32, Parish Street ,
Mosta ,
MST 2021,
Malta (Europe).
T: +356 2143 0009
M: +356 9925 5559
E: mgrm@maltagayrights.org

The Drachma Parents Group is also an active group within Drachma.  Their mission is that of providing support to parents and friends of LGBT people,read more